Inside the Dementia Epidemic:

A Daughter's Memoir

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Inside the Dementia
Epidemic: A Daughter's
Memoir

On Wall Street Journal best seller
list (May 1, 2015)

One of Alzheimers.net's 2014 Top Alzheimer's Books for Caregivers

Winner of the Memoir category of the 2013 Next Generation Indie Book Awards

Winner of a Silver Medal in the Health/Medical category of the 2013 Readers' Favorite International Book Awards (and finalist in the Memoir category)

Finalist, 2013 Eric Hoffer Book Award for Excellence in Publishing

Winner of an Honorable Mention in the Life Stories category of the 20th Annual Writer’s Digest Book Awards

Finalist, 2013 Indie Excellence Book Awards

Finalist, 2013 Santa Fe Writer's Project Literary Awards Program, Non-fiction category

Inside the Dementia Epidemic: A Daughter's Memoir shares the lessons I learned over 8 years of caregiving at home and in a range of dementia care facilities. I describe not only what I learned about navigating the system, but how I learned to see Alzheimer's disease differently—not as a "long good-bye," as it's often called, but as a "long hello." Through caregiving, my challenging relationship with my mother was transformed, and I learned to enjoy and nurture her spirit through the last stages of dementia.

Appendixes share facts about dementia that I wish I had known years ago, such as how to get a diagnosis of Alzheimer's disease; what medications are approved to lessen the symptoms of Alzheimer's disease; lesser-known risk factors for dementia; and possible antidotes. I include my favorite resources for caregivers, my source notes, and an index.

Inside the Dementia Epidemic: A Daughter's Memoir is available in paperback and hardcover, as an e-book for Apple devices, the Nook, and Kindle, and on Kobo.

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PHOTOS:

The photo at the very top of this page is of my mother, Judy, in 2010, smiling up at Suzanne, a massage therapist I hired who specializes in bodywork for elders. Suzanne massaged her hands, arms, upper back and legs, talked to her, and played music for her. [photo by Jason Kates van Staveren]

Right: My mother at her 75th birthday party in 2007, three years after she could no longer live alone. A few days after this picture was taken she fell, fractured her pelvis and needed more care than her assisted living facility could provide. I had to quickly research alternatives.

In 1996, Judy and her grandson, Andrew, age 1, on the shale beach outside the cottage on the lake in Upstate New York where she lived by herself for 25 years. It's his first visit, and she's showing him the "big lake water" and how to draw on the flat rocks with pencil-shaped pieces of shale. Her worrisome behavior starts around this time, but as her daughter I don't realize what is going on until much, much later.

Above: My mother, age 74, and I at the cottage in 2006 with her old miniature Schnauzer, Trinka. I can see the stress of those early caregiving years in my face and in my extra weight. Little did I know how much I would learn over the coming years.

Above: Judy, age 79, and me in early 2012 at the nursing home Judy moved into in 2010. Mom lived with advanced Alzheimer's disease and vascular dementia until she passed away in late 2012, but until the end she often shared her lovely smile.

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Inside Dementia

   Welcome to my blog about dementia
   caregiving as a "long hello," not a
"long good-bye" —how we can become
"care partners" with our family members
   or friends who are living with dementia, and how we can care for ourselves. Living with Alzheimer's disease or another dementia is a long, hard road, full of grief, anger and despair, but life continues after a diagnosis, and so can moments of joy.

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Nov042014

One Woman's Fight to Transform Alzheimer's Care

Tuesday, November 4, 2014 at 03:57PM

Judy BerryI'm thrilled today to share with you a pdf of an article that is not available anywhere else on the Internet--an article from this month's MORE Magazine which I scanned today at Kinko's just so I could share it with you. (I hope I don't get in trouble for sharing it. But I'm so excited, I'll take that risk.) It's an article about Judy Berry, the founder of the Lakeview Ranch model of dementia care.

Twenty years ago, Berry's mother had Alzheimer's disease and was so aggressive in her behavior that she was kicked out of numerous elder care facilities. Berry searched tirelessly for a loving facility for her mother where she would get the care she needed. Unfortunately, her mother died never having received the quality dementia care she deserved.

It was a tragic period that moved Berry to start her own home in Minnesota for people living with dementia whose behavior made it challenging to find appropriate care in other facilities. She learned everything she could about dementia, then used her savings to start a home called the Lakeview Ranch. After a while she was able to open a second home. Scholarships are available through donors to help residents with lower incomes and those on Medicaid.

For many years now, Judy Berry and her Lakeview Ranch have exemplied the very best in person-centered dementia care--care that can be replicated in any setting.

Here's the article: "What She Couldn't Do for Her Mother," by Julie Halpert

And here's more about Judy Berry in my debut blog post.